You know my weight struggles and my self esteem issues. I have been working very hard recently. I have been on a 1,200 calorie diet and working out 4 times a week. I've seen some weight loss in the past month and I have been feeling good about myself until last week.
Last Thursday I woke up at 7 am and hit the gym. I felt great about myself. I planned on a 45 minute cardio workout to start my day. There was no one in the place. I got on an elliptical, put my ear buds in and got in the zone. About 20 minutes into my work out a woman came into the gym and got on the elliptical right next to me. First off, I was weirded out because there were 8 other open machines but she got on the one directly next to me. I noticed her staring at my machine but she hopped off that machine after 5 minutes and proceeded to get on 3 other ellipticals, a stair climber and treadmill in the next 30 minutes. Not wiping off any of them!!! Huge gym pet peeve! Gross. I should have known she was inconsiderate. She then gets back on the original machine right next to mine and starts talking to me. She asked if the elliptical machine was all I did. I responded by telling her yes because I had to leave for work but I often do weights too. She cut me off, looked me up and down, pointed to my arms and thighs (which I am so self conscious of already) and said "It's NOT working. You have a LOT of body fat"
WHAT?!?!?!
Yep, that is what she said. I got called FAT at the gym!!!
I was so shocked!! I then told her that was a bit insensitive and I had lost 60 pounds and am no where near where I want to be. She then said she had lost 100 pounds and knows better. She said I need to lift weights and squat. At that point my workout had completed. Got off my machine and left the gym. The minute I got in my car I started crying. This b*tch had no idea how many ways she set me back. She had no idea what she had done to me. I basically cried the entire day. I kept thinking is that the way people/strangers really see me? I actually was feeling good about myself until that moment. She had no idea the magnitude of her words and how they broke my spirit. Why do people do things like that? She didn't know me. With her words she could have easily let anyone spiral out of control. I could have been a recovering anorexic or bulimic? She of all people should know what weight loss struggles are like considering she lost 100 pounds. It definitely broke my spirit and started eating last week. I haven't lost a pound since. It is so quick that a stranger can truly hurt you with just a few words. Everyone said I should have reported her but could you imagine going the the pretty, skinny 19 year old working that morning and telling her I was called fat?!?! Yeah it would not have been easy. I do have some guilt that she will do this to other people and make them feel the way she made me.
Sometimes people really suck.
Has anyone ever had an experience like this one?
If so how did you react?
5 comments:
Oh my gosh, who the heck says that?!? She's lucky it wasn't me... I would have knocked her ass out! I know it's tough but try to ignore what she said -- she probably has to put others down to make herself feel better. Besides, cardio helps a lot!
She sounds like a loon with no filter.
There are LOTS of crazies out there with too much time on their hands, that head to gyms and fitness studios and they don't know how to act in this kind of environment.
I have weight issues myself so totally get how you feel :(
I also struggle with confronting people or the owners of my studio (I go to hot yoga) when they are acting out of line.
She sounds like a know it all b*****, and machine jumping isn't going to help anyone lose weight, so what does she know? You look amazing AND you're getting married soon! I bet she doesn't have anyone special with THAT attitude.
You probably could've complained about the fact that she wasn't wiping off the machines. It's too bad others weren't around to hear and see her behavior because I have no doubt that someone would have put her in her place. I would've!
That is really terrible! Some people just need to put others down to make themselves feel better. I had a friend who was always ALWAYS making comments about my weight and it used to break me down every single time. Its hard to get over that kind of thing.
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