Friday, April 13, 2012

Cranky Bride...

I am feeling a bit burned out. Well, a lot more than just a bit. I'm having issues and feeling so pressured this last week. (I know you have heard it before)

Everything I do, every decision I make some one has told me it was wrong. The problem is if you disagree with some one they automactically use the term "Bridezilla" I have been so far from this it makes me want to scream. People have had teh right to do whatever they damn well pleased, do their hair however they wanted, wear whatever shoes and jewelry they wanted but now I'm a bitch.

-I tell the bridal party the rehearsal dinner there are no dates due to the limited space...Wrong

-I get upset with the seamstress because she is recreating the jr. bridesmaid dress...Again, Wrong

-I get upset because my fiance LOST all of my shower invites I gave him to mail out 3 weeks ago...Again, Wrong. I was also told "What is the big deal"

-Email bridesmaids telling them the stylist will start hair at 8am...Wrong, apparently you should just let people show up whenever the hell they feel like it.

-Email people inviting them to breakfast the morning of. Yep, you guessed it, that's wrong too.

-Wanting to follow the professional photographer's agenda and time frame. Again, I am wrong. I was told I should just let people do whatever they want and show up whenever they want.

It just simply amazes me how wrong one person can be. Why do I even bother?
I'm officially broken down. I give in. I raise the white flag. I don't think I want to do this anymore.


Blubtrflygrl said...

You're the bride. Those are all reasonable requests. People in the bridal party especially need to suck it up for one day and deal.


Molly said...

Ugh, I'm so sorry. It's such bullshit when you hear things like, "You're the bride! It's your day--do whatever you want!" because it so isn't true.

Do you have a close friend or bridesmaid or family member that you feel comfortable venting to? I reached a point a few days before the wedding where I just couldn't deal with all of the stress anymore and just had my best friend tell people to lay off. It was a lifesaver.

As cheesy as it sounds, your whole day will just be a beautiful, messy blur and you'll walk away with the best memories. (And hopefully forget about or be able to laugh about the rest.)

I hope you're able to find some peace in the midst of all the insanity. And for the record, NONE of the things you listed that you did were wrong. XOXO

{[Jessica]} said...

I know EXACTLY how you are feeling.
I am starting to feel the same way, so much so I am thinking of canceling the wedding & packing our bags & heading to vegas.. I could have a good time in vegas for the money we have aside for the wedding.

It amazes me how people cna be so RUDE on such a big day in YOUR life. I dont know why people grow up & just stop being selfish for once. its your day. if u tell em to be at rehearsal dinner than be there if not dont bother showing up to the wedding is what i would be telling them. If they dont want to show up at 8am for the wedding than dont be in it. Just start being blunt n honest with them. They need to understad its not THIER day its YOUR day.

Hopefully it gets better for you!!


krys said...

basically, whatever you do, someone will think it is wrong, someone will get upset, someone will say something ridiculous to you... :\

i gave up on listening to anything people said or anything they wanted. it's your day, not theirs.

and the actual day will definitely fly by! you can't focus on what anyone else says/wants! most likely they'll forget about all this stuff/anything they were upset about (and if they don't...they're not very nice or considerate)

Monica said...

I haven't had a wedding of my own but I am going to guess that you are not wrong. It is yours & your fiances day and it is not everyone else's nor is it up to them what should be right or wrong.

Kristin said...

Oh dear. It's okay! "Bridezilla" is such an over-used term these days. Planning a wedding is the single most stressful thing I've ever done because, these days, the bride (and the bride alone) is expected to make it perfect. All while being completely perfect herself. So unrealistic. Take a day to relax and breathe! Hope it gets better :)

Sarah @ 90 Percent Blonde... said...

Just ignore all of them -- I know it's tough but it's your day and your decisions. I don't think you were wrong with any of the things you mentioned... some people just aren't happy unless they're complaining/disagreeing though.

My sister called me a bridezilla because she blew up at me (yes, she was the one yelling) all because the wedding is going slightly over budget - nothing we can't handle - but since she 'settled' on her wedding, so should we.

Kristin said...

hope you are feeling better about it today! i decided no bridesmaids because I dont want any stress or drama lol. trying to do one thing at a time :)

Saying I do said...

who are these people telling you you are wrong in all these cases? you need to take a stand and do what you need to do - you are not wrong in any of these cases.

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